You’re Not Better Than Anyone…

I see it so many times on the internet…
“I’m so glad i’m not married.” 
“I’m way too young to have kids.”
“I don’t know why people put their lives on the internet.”
“People just need to enjoy their lives and not worry about being settled down.”

Woah, weird, right?! SOMEONE might NOT want EXACTLY what you want in your life! Let’s alert the media….or at least BuzzFeed so they can write an article about it. 

I’m so sick of these BuzzFeed articles such as “30 reasons not to be married before you’re 30” or “15 reasons why being single really is the greatest thing on the planet”

I see it everyday. People preaching about being an “individual”, doing what makes you happy, living your life for no one but yourself…blah, blah, blah….but when someone does something “out of the norm” or not “following the trends”….it’s like all hell breaks loose and we create a bunch of banter on Facebook to make these people feel small. 

So why do people attack others for being settled down? Getting married at a young age? Having kids on purpose? Putting their life on the internet? 
Those are just instances I see in my every day life because they pertain to me directly, but it literally happens for EVERY occasion lately. Every stereotype of person. Every hobby someone indulges in. I feel like no matter what is said or done these days, SOMEONE is offended. Breathing probably offends half the people in this world nowadays. How dare she breathe like that…
People want to preach one thing, and do another. 
It’s rather annoying, in my humble opinion. 

If you want to be married, GET MARRIED. 
If you want to have kids on purpose, DO NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT THAT.
If you want to be single and travel, YOU DO YOU BOO BOO. 
If you want to start a blog about cats, BLOG BLOG BLOG! 

You’re not better than anyone because you’re single. 
You’re not better than anyone because you’re married. 
You’re not better than anyone because you have a good job or because you drive a nice car or because you choose to be a hippie or because you drink or because you don’t drink. 
The list goes on and on and on. 

Let people live their lives. 
It shouldn’t concern YOU what other people are doing. 

Okay, rant over. That’s been bugging me for awhile…

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When Your 5 Year Old Hates You

It’s been such a fun week. Like the kind of week you just want to keep having over and over and over again! 
The kind of week where your dryer breaks, then your fridge, then your hot water heater…all in the matter of four days. AFTER you just bought your fridge off craigslist and paid an unhealthy amount of money for it. And your in-laws drive 4 hours each way to pick it up. And you stocked it full of groceries. 

And then tonight happens. 

We had just finished dinner and baby girl tried “salad” (which was ONE piece of lettuce with NOTHING on it because she dabbed it off with a napkin) therefore we let her have a push-up. YAY PARENTS! 
She was clearly having some kind of technical difficulties because it almost came out the bottom, then when we got that sorted out, she shot it through the top, causing it to go all over herself. This trigged an all out melt down. (Mind you, there was maybe TWO bites left of this stupid ice cream.)

I abruptly scooped it off of her and ran it to the trash can to throw it away. After BEGGING for another push-up and me telling her no, the full blown SCREAMING started. Enter daddy. He seems to be a great mediator for us women in the house. Bless his heart. 

After realizing we were not going to cave about getting another push-up, baby girl screamed those three words i’ve been dreading to hear. I. HATE. YOU. Followed by a lot of “YOU GUYS ARE SO MEAN!” 
But mainly….I. HATE. YOU. 

M and I were both silent. And then I cried. 

Do other parents remember the time their kid said those words? Am I a bad parent for having my FIVE year old say that to me?!? I feel like a total failure! 

Our child is spoiled. She is spoiled rotten but she also has boundaries which I thought were great. We aren’t push overs but we truly give her the world. I think that’s why this is so devastating to me. I’ve feared this day more than I could have imagined and now it’s here. The words are said. Her and I have since talked about it, which I think helped, but i’m still shattered. I’ve wanted nothing but to provide the best and be the best. I clearly fell short of that tonight. We are good parents. We have a good life and a good home and we have a good family. How could she POSSIBLY hate us?! I know it’s just something kids say, but man it hurts. It hurts so bad. 

I’ve always told M that I hope ONE DAY baby girl can appreciate all we’ve done for her. We have truly gone through hell and back for that girl. We’ve fought for her, we’ve fought for our family, we’ve fought for HER happiness and wellbeing. I know she’s only five and i’m probably blowing this all out of proportion, but for some odd reason I want to remember this day. I want to remember this moment. That’s why blogging and putting your life on the internet is so great. I can go back and read exactly how I was feeling, what I was thinking, what we were doing with our life….

Man… I. HATE. YOU. 
What STRONG words. 
I hope from this moment forward we can teach her better. And show her a better love. And just surround her with the kind of positivity and love she needs in the moments of a melt down. 

Parenting is hard work. Anyone who says it isn’t, they are LYING. 
If you are a parent and reading this, please don’t forget how bad ass you are. You’ve got this. Even on your roughest days, YOU’VE GOT THIS. Try your hardest. Life your best life. And love those little souls you brought into this world more than anything. It’s tough. It’s so so so tough. But at the end of the day, it is so so SO worth it. Even on the bad days. Even on the days like today. 

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Life Update & What’s Coming! (A GIVEAWAY?!)

HOLY MOLY. Where has the time gone?!?
I feel like I say this with every blog post lately, but WOW i’ve been gone for awhile! I really really REALLY want to change that. Does anyone even miss me in bloglandia?!
Our life has taken huge turns lately and i’m still getting used to them! If you’re interested in hearing about a life update and what’s coming up in the ‘BOMBSHELL WIFE LIFE’ future, stay tuned…!

Well, baby girl started KINDERGARDEN. Excuse me, what?!?!? I seriously can NOT believe it’s already “that time”. Five years old has been a troubling age for me, too. The sass, and the attitude, and the meltdowns that come with five years old makes me want to lose my dang mind! It’s been rough and it’s been an ADJUSTMENT. Anyone else experience this?!? Also with the sass comes the most gentle and caring human being I know. I’ve said this for years about baby girl, but she truly is one of the most caring and compassionate humans I know! It melts my heart! (When i’m not wanting to rip my hair out.)

My best friend just got married and we drove over 16 hours each way for the occasion! It was so beyond amazing and couldn’t have been more perfect or beautiful! We have been friends for over 7 years and being by her side on her big day is something I wouldn’t have missed for the world! You know those super cute barn weddings you see on Pinterest and you think “wow, that is so gorgeous!”?! Yeah, her wedding was one of those! Absolutely stunning and such a fun night!

(If you follow me on instagram you’ve already seen all these big events so I apologize for a repeat)

One BIG THING coming up in my future is the Summit 2015 Conference! I haven’t talked about this yet because honestly i’ve been a little intimidated by it. This is my FIRST blogger conference I will be attending! I was so beyond excited when the people of this great organization reached out to me and asked me to attend.
It’s actually a HUGE honor and I think it’s HUGE for my blog!
It’s located in San Diego! (Oct. 23-24) Can you say VACATION?! This is open to ALL moms looking to raise happy and HEALTHY families! Some of the AWESOME sponsors of this event include Solgar, Veri, SmartFlour, and Dr. Bronners! Want to sign up? DO SO HERE and use the code WOW30 for 30% off!
Where are my Cali friends at?! (Or my Arizona friends who want to carpool?! EH?!?!?) Sound like you?!?! Im giving away a FREE ticket over on my Instagram!

M and I are also in the process of launching a new business! I am so beyond excited for this! Again, if you follow me on instgram, you’ve heard me rant about how he is such an entrepreneur. Well, he’s at it again and i’m so excited because it’s a business i’ve wanted to do for quite some time now! Want all the deets?! Stay tuned!

I’ve been thinking of setting more of a “blogging schedule” for myself. What do you guys think about that? What kind of posts do you like to read? Drop me a quick comment! I’d love to hear from you guys! I miss you all so much and I really will start blogging more! But for now, head over to my instagram and enter to win a free ticket to this awesome conference!

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