10 YouTube Video Ideas For Your Channel

I am no pro when it comes to YouTube, but I do enjoy the heck out of it! SHAMELESS PLUS OF MY CHANNEL HERE. I think it is such a fun and creative outlet. If you have been thinking about getting on the YouTube train, I say DO IT! What’s the worst that can happen?! People don’t watch?!
I have about three people who watch my videos and I still love it!

A lot of people ask “where do I start?!”
Here are TEN video ideas for your YouTube channel to get you started!

1. Do a haul – I have no idea why people love watching these, but they do! Myself included. No shame. Target haul, grocery haul, hell people watch peoples TRASH hauls. Its a real thing. Look up “Empties Haul”.

People will literally watch anything on the internet.

2. Show off a talent – Are you super good at something?! Show it off! The more unique the better. I myself am not real talented at anything, so this one is a no go for me. But you my friend…you run with this!

3. Routines – Again, this is one of those weird things that I am not sure why so many people watch, but they do! Do you have a school routine, night routine, cleaning routine….fitness/cooking/makeup/skincare?! (I could keep going but I will let you move on from this idea) Film it and throw it on the internet!

4. Story time videos – Ever have something ridiculous or funny or ridiculously funny happen to you?! The reason people watch YouTube is to pass the time (and occasionally learn about what someone wore or ate or did for the week)…talk about something that has happened in your life. People will love it.

5. Make a yummy food/drink – Everyone loves food and drinks. Film yourself making something great! ….and then share with me.

6. Weekly meals – What are you eating this week? Film it! (Are you seeing a trend here?! Film all the things!)

7. What you are passionate about – Do you love essential oils? Are you a makeup lover? Do you really enjoy fitness? This is key for your YouTube channel. Share what you love.

8. Pranks – I don’t film these types of videos, but I sure love watching them!

9. Introduction video – Tell us about yourself. A good, old fashion, sit down and get to know me type video. It may boost your audience when people can relate to you on a more personal note.
(Hmm…maybe I should film this video?!)

10. Cats – If all else fails….cats!

Remember that YouTube is what YOU want it to be! Whatever you choose to post, make it your own and have fun with it! The internet is such a vast and wonderful place and there is room for YOU here! If you film any of these videos, make sure to tag me in them so I can watch!

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5 Things NOT To Do On Instagram

We all love Instagram. The filters, the hashtags, the saltiness. (Kidding)
Business use or personal use, whatever the reason may be, we all love Instagram. (Are you following me yet?!)

Whether these tips ACTUALLY help your Instagram grow OR if they just help you in life, here are five things NOT to do on Instagram.

1. Do not feel like you have to have a “theme”. Once I heard what “themes” were I literally sat there looking at my phone like this

If you don’t know, themes are when people only post pictures on their insta page with certain colors so it looks aesthetically pleasing. Do I understand that? Sure. But will I not post a picture because it doesn’t have a blue object in it? Absolutely not. #postallthepictures 
2. Speaking of hashtags…for the sake of everyone, PLEASE limit yourself. I know first hand the love someone can have for hashtags. I use them often. And a lot of them. But if you are using over 20 hastags on one picture AND hashtags that aren’t even relevant to your picture, please stop. It’s annoying. And #for the sake of #everyone, #please #stop doing #this.
3. Please quit deleting your pictures for the sake of having a “low picture count”. I don’t even know why this is a “thing”, but it doesn’t get you any where. Post all the pictures. Have you not heard of ChatBooks?!
4. Quit using stock photos. If you are a blogger/instagrammer (is full time instagrammer a job?) please quit using stock photos. We want to see YOUR talent/pictures/life/pretty face/lunch/outift. Not something off google.
5. Same filter on all your photos may look great, but does it REALLY look great? Sometimes my picture looks better in Slumber than it does in X-Pro II but am I going to ONLY use X-Pro II because ALL my pictures are in that filter!? No! Girl, use those filters however you want!!
I know some of these don’t seem “practical” but trust me when I say each of them are so out of this world annoying. So whether you apply them to your gramming or not, I hope you enjoyed this! What are some of your rules and/or pet peeves about Instagram?! Find me on there and leave me a comment telling me about them!
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The Truth About My Life Right Now

Why do I do this to myself? I go months and months and months without blogging and totally kick myself in the ass for it.
Guys, the last few months of my life have been hard. I talked about 2016 in a recap in December and that was my last post. Depression is a silly biznatch like that. It makes you want to do nothing, see no one, and gives you literally NO motivation. But as a wife, mom, and full time employee, doing “nothing” isn’t an option. So I went through the motions, day in and day out, and guys…it was draining. It IS draining. As in currently, I AM DRAINED.

I have such a weird complex with blogging.
Do I want to blog? Absolutely. But do I feel pressured to dress the best, act the best, have the best? Absolutely. It’s so silly. So so so silly. I’m sick of feeling like I have “nothing to post”.

One thing I’ve learned about the internet is that there is ALWAYS room for you. I feel like a broken record when I say that, but it’s true. If you want to talk, pour your heart out, and put whatever the hell you want on the internet…GO FOR IT!

I’ve been at a really low point in my life. I thought after we miscarried I would have nothing to talk about. I felt like no one would be interested in anything else going on in my life. But do I blog for other people? Do I write for their satisfaction? Obviously not. I never have. So why would I start now?

The truth is…I’ve been in a major rut. I’m trying so hard to get out of it, because trust me when I say it is the worst thing I’ve ever gone through. I am so thankful for a supportive husband. And I don’t mean support like “oh yeah he loves and supports me”. I mean supportive like he recognizes my down days and can say to me “are you having a down day? Is there anything I can do? What do you need?” That to me is true love, and support, and a best friend. He really is my rock.

I am hoping to get in more of a routine with blogging. I can do this. This is my happy place and no matter how many times I stray from it, I always have a longing to come back. Something about writing clears both my head and my heart. So here’s to writing in 2017!

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The Year That Kicked My Ass

This year was tough. And I don’t mean tough like “I had a few rough days”, I mean tough like I cried majority of the year and I wish I was even halfway kidding when I say that.

I’ve been writing this post in my head for about a month or so. I wasn’t sure how much I wanted to say or what I wanted to share. (Trying to be respectful for all parties involved) I’ve always been vulnerable on here, that’s no secret….but something about actually writing things out is so scary. It is so so so scary.

We started out our year by celebrating two years of marriage. Now coming up on three years, it’s crazy to see how quickly these years have gone. I know it’s only three years, but woah! What a wild ride. We went on our first cruise and we spent a weekend in San Francisco. Great, GREAT memories from both of those trips!

Our sweet little girl turned six this year. One SASSY six year old she became this year.

We went camping, we fixed up our house, and we created wedding films. We did a lot of fun things. The year wasn’t ALL bad, but…the title of this is The Year That Kicked My Ass….so let’s get onto that part….it’s therapeutic for me. Disclaimer: I understand not everyone approves of talking about issues in your life openly on the internet. You do you and I’ll do me. This works for me.

I try my hardest not to dwell on the past or things that don’t make me happy, and TRUST ME, it is something I am working on. My husband will laugh at that sentence because of how much I DO dwell on things, but it’s one of my character flaws I hate most about myself. I am working on it. Just love me. It’s what I need most right now.

In August we found out we were pregnant. After almost two and a half years of trying, praying, and crying for a baby, we finally got our turn. This came right after going through the toughest few months in our marriage. Parts of our marriage I honestly didn’t know how to handle. I was over the moon about our pregnancy, but I couldn’t help but wonder “why?” What was God’s plan here? I honestly thought we were being Punk’d. Ashton?! Where are you? I told myself that God was telling us that our marriage was worth it. This was worth fighting for. This was his sign for us. But in October, when we miscarried, I again wondered what the plan was. Why me? Why us? It was so hard to wrap my head around. And honestly? It still is. It’s still hard. I know healing takes time, but when is it enough time? Will I ever fully “be over it”? Not that I ever need to be over the pain of losing a baby, but some days I don’t feel validated for my feelings. I am not sure who I think I need to answer to, but most days I feel like it is someone other than myself…

This year was a lot of self reflection. It was a lot of learning. It was a lot of growing.
It was a lot of crying and screaming and fighting and saying “I’m sorry” and taking a step back to see who I was becoming. It was hard. Admitting things like this is hard.
I think one of the hardest things for me to admit is when I have downfalls. But those are what make us human, right? If we never admit these things, do we ever give ourselves the chance to grow from them?

No. The answer is no.

This year was a year of growing. Growing as a couple, growing as a family, and growing as a person. Sometimes not in the direction I had hoped for, and that’s okay. I need to take time and realize that not everything is going to be perfect. Life isn’t picture perfect. There are mistakes to be had, there are lessons to be learned.

One thing I know though? Through all of this….I really got the better end of the deal. I geta loving husband. A husband who chooses me and a husband who chooses our marriage. A husband who loves me on my hardest days and laughs with me on the good days. A husband who doesn’t always see eye to eye with me, but challenges me to see things a different way while trying to understand where I’m coming from in the same breath.

Guys, this year kicked my ass. Emotionally, physically, mentally….everything. It wasn’t a year I was proud of. It wasn’t a year I did anything amazing. It wasn’t a year that I accomplished anything cool. It was, however, a year that taught me a lot, and that is worth celebrating.

2017 will be our year. It will be MY year. I have 5302920 ideas for blog posts, YouTube videos, EBooks (WHAT?!) Just roll with it….

I hope 2017 is amazing for all of you. I truly, truly mean that. I hope this next year challenges you, changes you for the better, and brings you lots of happiness and joy. As always, thank you for taking time out of your day to read my ramblings. Most of this blog doesn’t make sense, but for some reason I keep writing…I appreciate those of you who keep reading.

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There Was No Us Before You

I’ve seen a lot of articles circling the internet talking about how “we were US before we had you”…basically, it’s the idea that before we had kids, we were dating and had alone time and well…didn’t have kids. Pretty dreamy, right?! The articles talk about how important is it to still date because “before we had you, we had us”.

I love the idea and concept of this. However, sometimes…for some people…there is so “us” before “you”. Sometimes, love happens when there are already children involved.

This post is for those people.

This is for the single parents who had to learn how to date while also being a parent. This is for the person who decided to date someone with a child, knowing what you were signing up for. This is for the people who made their relationship work, despite not always having “alone” time. This is for the people who “pre marriage dating” involved kids. This is for the people who got “alone time” after an 8pm bedtime.

I think it is important for ALL married couples to date. Please don’t get me wrong on that. Dating your spouse is just one of those things I strongly believe in. However, for those people who never had “us” before “you”, I feel it’s even MORE important.
It’s important to find yourself as a couple. It’s important to find your role as husband or as wife AND as mom and as dad.

I’ve also read articles about being a “wife” before you were a “mom”, but sometimes that isn’t always the case. Sometimes motherhood comes first. I’m here to tell you…that’s okay. I know I’m not the first person to say that, but I know for me personally, sometimes I read articles like the ones mentioned above and I think…none of this pertains to me. I was a mom before I was married. We were a family from day one. It’s okay to not have “us” before “you” and now more than ever, it’s important to DATE YOUR SPOUSE! Cook dinner together, have a game night, find a new hobby together….

Guys, I really don’t even know if this post makes sense….but it’s been on my heart and it’s something I wanted to share.

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Vacations I Want To Take

After another fun and eventful Monday in corporate America, I thought what better way to sulk in my misery than to list a few of the vacations I want to take.
(Because let’s be honest, if I listed them all, we’d be here all day. And no one wants that.) 

I truly love traveling. It might be one of my favorite things to do. However, my bank account does not agree. And lately, neither does my five year old because she’s “offended” that we DARE not invite her to places. 
But that’s a whole other story for another day…

In no particular order, I present to you some of the vacations I’d LOVE to take some day. And if i’m lucky, my ridiculously handsome husband will pick up on this and surprise me in 294 years when we can afford a lavish vacation. 😉 

Napa Valley
Something about Napa Valley really appeals to me. Like really really appeals to me. The wine lover in me wants to be overlooking the gorgeous vineyards, sipping on wine, and forgetting that I actually live the life of a peasant. I mean really, who wouldn’t want that?! I’ve seen the pictures, and yes, every single one makes me jealous. It’s cool. Keep on sipping your wine with your floppy hats, i’ll just be sitting here wishing I was you. 
Some day i’ll go there. Who wants to join?!

Bora Bora
If this ISN’T on your dream vacations list, who are you?!?! Have you not seen the over water bungalows? They are perfection. I want to be able to jump off my private porch into the crystal clear ocean, see that same ocean from inside my bungalow, and bask in the amazingness that is FSBoraBora. (That’s Four Seasons. I like to know what i’m talking about.) Shelby, hook it up, would ya?!

New York City
Yes, this is a place I haven’t been. I know, I know…it hurts my heart, too. There shouldn’t be much explanation as to why this place is on my list. I mean it’s NEW YORK CITY! 

Cabo San Lucas, Mexico
If you follow us AT ALL, you know that we love Mexico and we go quite often. However, Cabo is one place we haven’t been. I want to go there and experience the whole “deep sea fishing” nonsense that is hyped up about that place. If that doesn’t scream a good time, I don’t know what does. Oh and i’d also love to go on a catamaran ride! (Is that what those boats are called?!) We did Cancun on our honeymoon and now it’s time to cross Cabo off the list! 

A Cruise
I’ve wanted to do a cruise for some time now. We are going on one in January and this will be our first one so any advice is greatly appreciated! 🙂 

Of course my vacation list is a mile long, but this is just a glimpse into a few of the ones I am dying to take! 
What are your favorite vacations you’ve ever taken? What’s your DREAM vacation?! Hope you all had a great Monday and you have a fabulous week! 

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5 Reasons Not To Start A Blog

When it comes to blogging I get one question asked over, and over, and OVER again. “How do I start a blog?” As much as I would truly love to help people branch into the world of blogging, that is such an open-ended question and I have NO idea where to start with it. 

I can however, give you 5 reasons not to start a blog…

1. To make money

If you are starting a blog with the only intention being to make money, don’t do it. You don’t just start a blog and wham bam thank you ma’am you’re making money! Blogging takes a lot of work. It takes effort and time and patience. If you’re wanting to make money quick, get a real J.O.B. With that being said, people DO make SERIOUS money blogging. It just doesn’t happen over night. 😉 

2. For free stuff

Without fail, I will ALWAYS get messages after a review post is up asking how other people can get free stuff sent to them. Again, this is not a reason to start a blog. When you start a blog you aren’t put on some magical list where people send you things. This again takes time, effort, and patience. You have to network. You have to “prove yourself” in the blogging world. Companies want someone who is going to write them a good honest review. Not just someone who wants free stuff. I mean, that makes sense, right?!

3. Instagram followers 

If you start a blog and think your instagram followers are going to dramatically increase, you’re wrong. There ARE bloggers out there with THOUSANDS of followers, but again, this isn’t something that happens over night. Instagram takes time, a ton of hashtags, and the perfect filters. Not even sorry about the amount of hashtags I use. Get on that Instagram game and maybe you’ll be the next big thaaaaang. #werk #fingersnap

4. To “go viral”

This is just ridiculous. Who even starts a blog with this as a goal?

5. To make money and get free stuff

I’m not kidding. Starting a blog for these two reasons is silly. Start a blog because you have something to share. Start a blog because you’re crafty and want a place to showcase it. Start a blog because you have no friends. Start a blog because you live in a small town, with no Starbucks, and you have no friends and you don’t even have a store to shop at and because you really like baking cupcakes. 

I hope this post helped you guys! 😉 
Truly though, if you have questions about starting a blog or blogging in general, 
please don’t hesitate to reach out to me! 
Thank you so much for reading and following along this journey called life with me! 

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