Life Update

Hi, my name is Kaylin and I haven’t talked with y’all in far too long. 
Ready for a life update?!

I wasn’t going to make one of these, but more than one person has asked where i’ve been lately so I figured maybe two or three other people were curious as well. And maybe not, but i’m writing this anyway, you know me! 

At the beginning of the year, M and I started our Total Money Makeover. If any of you know what that is, you are well aware that we currently have a love/hate relationship with Dave. Good ole Dave! 
Nonetheless, we’ve been trying to make big moves financially and that leads me to the reason my blog, and social media as a whole, has really been neglected lately. 
Here it is: I GOT A JOB! A full time, 8-5, have to get out of my pajamas every single day kind of JOB! 

(If you don’t selfie on the first day of work, did the first day of work really happen?)


We have had many talks on whether I should try to go back to work or not and it really was a difficult decision. I was so beyond thrilled to start staying at home that the thought of going back to work terrified me. We figured for the time being, while getting pregnant is taking longer than expected, I will work and we can use that extra money towards helping pay off our debt. And the whole “being around other human beings” aspect isn’t too bad either. 

It’s been a long month. It’s been a month with lots of changes and lots of adjusting for everyone in our family. I’m really enjoying what i’m doing and the support from my husband is really a huge help. I love how well him and I work as a team. I love that we get to do this whole marriage thing together and make decisions together for whats best for our family. It makes my heart happy. Really, really happy. 

Also, I got an infection in one of my wisdom teeth which was making the simple task of breathing difficult so most nights the last thing I wanted to do was blog. Pretty exiting, huh?! I have missed it though. I’ve missed it so, so much. It makes me happy when people ask “where have you been?!” It’s like people truly care about me, my family, and what’s going on in our life. I LOVE THAT. 

And while you’re here reading, I want to say thank you. I feel like I could never say thank you enough to the people who read my blog. There are thousands of people each month who click on my little part of the internet to keep up with me and read my thoughts and feelings. I appreciate that more than anyone will ever know. So if you are one of those people, if you click on this page of mine, if you read these words I write….from the bottom of my heart, thank you. 

I hope each of you are doing well. Leave me a comment saying hi, send me an email, find me on instagram. 
Let’s be friends! 

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What It’s Really Like “Trying For A Baby”

You know, trying to get pregnant is a lot harder than I ever imagined. 

I know what you’re all thinking, “Quit using protection & wham, bam, thank you ma’am you’re pregnant” 
HA! If ONLY it were that simple. 

I know part of my problem is that I was naive to think anything could ever be wrong, or this would take us any time at all. Maybe naive is the wrong word? It’s not like you go into “trying” for a baby and think “hey, this might not work out”, but still….I should have emotionally prepared myself that this might take a few months. 

A few months have passed, and a few more, and then a few more on top of that. 
Have you seen any baby posts from me? Do you see a pregnancy announcement anywhere on my social media pages? Ya, you can guess how this whole “making a baby” thing is going for us. 

Part of this post is just for my own sanity, seeing as I feel like there is no one to talk to about this stupid, emotion filled subject. It’s that one of the many awesome things that come along with being a woman? So emotional about so many different things. I apologize for the rambling. Bless my husband though, he puts up with me like a CHAMP. 
(I love you, baby) 

You see, the thing about “trying” for a baby is this: you are so filled with emotion each and every month. It goes a little something like this…
*YES! THIS IS OUR MONTH! I FEEL IT! I JUST KNOW IT!* ……… *wait, wait, wait* *………get your period*
I see it so many times on the internet “better late than pregnant” or “i’ll take cramps over a baby any day” and all I can do when I get my period is cry. (Like literally bawl on the floor but that is because of the pain I get with it and all my endometriosis side effects and that is a post all in its own. And cry because i’m not pregnant. They go hand in hand.) 

There hasn’t been a month since “trying” that I haven’t cried. There hasn’t been a month without thinking “what is wrong with me?!” There hasn’t been a month without thinking “what am I doing wrong?!” There hasn’t been a month where I’m not filled with anger, and depression, and sadness, and every emotion in-between. And before you even DARE say “that’s not helping your case” I FREAKING KNOW THAT. I know it’s not helping that I stress about it and/or get upset about it. I KNOW that our time will come, but it sure as hell doesn’t make it ANY easier. 

Like how I keep saying “trying”? I have ALWAYS been that person who thinks it’s SO weird when people tell others that they are trying to a baby. Like “HEY, WE’RE HAVING SEX AND WANT PEOPLE TO KNOW ABOUT IT!” THAT. IS. AWKWARD. But you know what? I’m over it. I’m over caring what other people think. 

This was more of a rambling post as stated above. Sometimes I need this. Sometimes I just need to let my mind wander and let it do the typing. That’s the funny and great thing about blogging. This is my little place on the internet where I can come and just be real and be me.
 Read if you wish, hate me if you want to, but either way, this is my place

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The Dad He Didn’t Have To Be

Ever since a conversation with another guy a few weeks ago, I knew I wanted to write this post. However, I knew I needed to write this post when I had cooled off a little bit and my emotions weren’t going to get the best of me. Quite honestly I’m not even sure what I want to say, but I know I need to say it. This post might be a bit ramble-y and for that I apologize, but what I’m about to say has a huge impact on my life and the life of my daughter so I want it to be said…

My husband is a rockstar. My husband is phenomenal. My husband is my world. 
My husband is a DAD to a little girl when he never had to be. 

Backtrack to my conversation with this random guy a few weeks ago:
“Oh you have a daughter? Is it your husbands kid?”
Not only does that question PISS ME THE HELL OFF, but it’s just rude. You don’t ask someone that. And although I could lie to people and say “yes”, for some reason this time I said “not his biological daughter…”
He replies with…
“Wait, let me get this straight….you had a KID with ANOTHER GUY and someone STILL married you? AND he raises your kid? WOW! Hats off to him because I could NEVER do that”

…..you know why you could probably never do that? Because it takes a real MAN to be in that kind of situation and still make the best of it. From the way you’re talking right now you are a poor excuse for a man, random stranger I just met. It also takes a MAN to love a woman with a child. It takes a MAN to love that child exactly like his own and do the best job he can at raising he/she. 

So rude. Rude, rude, RUUUUDE! 
It literally made my blood boil. It took everything in me not to call my husband over and have him knock the stupid kid out. But because i’m a lady, I decided not do that. 

The thing is this; yes, it’s not “cookie cutter” for relationships to happen the way mine did. But you know what? It did happen. And you know what else? Believe it or not, we are HAPPY. We are a family. We love each other, all three of us. Baby girl and M have a bond like i’ve never seen before. 
He is the designated “story reader” at night. He let’s her ride on him like a horsey around the living room. He’s taught her that dirt and mud are okay and that being afraid of flies is the silliest thing ever. 

So let me say again, my husband is a ROCKSTAR. He never HAD to be a dad. He never HAD to stay around when I told him about baby girl on the first night we met. But he CHOSE to do that. He KNEW what he was getting into. In my opinion, that’s the manliest thing a man can do. 

Before you judge someones relationship or say ANYTHING to their face, please think of their feelings. Think of what they might have been through to get to the point they are in their life. 
I truly thank God each and every single day that my husband was brought into our lives. I couldn’t love that man any more if I tried. One of his most attractive qualities is that he IS such an amazing DAD. 

We love you, M. Thank you for everything you do. You’ll never know the impact you’ve had on our lives or how much we truly truly love you. You are our world. 
A million times over again, THANK YOU. 


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Top 5 Posts

Hi, my name is Kaylin and I have Bloggers Block.
Symptoms include, and are not limited to:
-Lack of inspiration
-Lack of creativity 
-Little to no desire to write a post
Does anyone else suffer from this or is it just me?! 

To cure myself of this, I have decided to look back and post the top 5 viewed posts from my blog since I have started this journey. 

1. My engagement post was a HUGE hit. Who knew so many people were interested in hearing our story?! And y’all, this includes a video! 

2. And along with that came the story of how we met. It’s cute, we’re cute, it’s all good. People love learning about how you meet, and that rang true because people LOVED this blog post! 

3. Our engagement pictures were so fun. 

4. We bought our first home together this year! (Well, last year) Yes, it’s a fixer upper. Yes, we are excited. And yes, we still LOVE it! Here was our BEFORE tour

5. This post was probably one of my most favorite posts. I got so much interaction from it and I loved hearing everyones opinion about the subject! 

These were some of my FAVORITE posts, and seeing the numbers it was some of y’alls favorite posts too. It was fun looking back and seeing old posts! 

Do you ever get bloggers/writers block?! 
What do you do to rid yourself of it? I’d love to know! 

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Thing I Don’t Understand

There are plenty of things in this world that have me scratching my head and asking “why?!” These are the things on the top of that list:

1. When people say “Leggings aren’t pants!”
If leggings aren’t pants, what are they? A hat? A shirt? THEY ARE PANTS. Sure, some people take them to an extreme and make them look terrible. With that being said though, some people can ROCK THOSE LEGGINGS and look fabulous in them. I wish people would just stop saying they aren’t pants. They are. 

2. When people say “If you’re posting about how happy you are in your relationship on Facebook, i’m assuming you’re secretly miserable and your relationship is about to fall apart.”
Uhm, excuse me but WHAT?! Since when does posting that you’re happy secretly mean that you’re miserable?! I missed that memo. If i’m happy and want to share it with my friends and family, I should be allowed to post it to whatever site I want and not feel ridiculed for it. 

3. The saying “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.”
Those people have clearly never had double stuffed oreos. 

4. The “Blondes Vs. Brunettes” debate.
Why does it matter what color someones hair is? Everyone has their own taste/opinion. One is not “better” than the other. That is just silly. 

5. When stores have items on “clearance” but it’s only one dollar or less cheaper. 
I’m sorry, but that is NOT a clearance price. Why even mark it as clearance?!

What sorts of things do you not understand?! I’d love to hear about them! 

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Is Marriage Supposed To Be Hard?

I don’t know how many countless articles and blog posts I see with a reoccurring theme: 
“10 Ways To Stay Happy In Your Marriage” or 
“35 Best Ways To Love Your Husband Endlessly”

Although I don’t think these articles are bad, I feel like some of the messages they send aren’t the greatest. To me, when I see these, I see “marriage is, without fail, bad”. I am not naive to think there aren’t bad days in marriage. But with these articles, I feel a message is being sent that “no matter what, you will start falling out of love with your spouse” or “if you don’t do certain steps, your marriage won’t flourish”. To me, that is silly. 

My idea? Choose happy. 
Every day of your life, choose happy. 


I remember when M and I were moving and my mom asked “how many fights did you guys get in along the way?” I was so confused by this because my answer was none. Were we supposed to fight? We were supposed to have a hard time moving? 

What do you always hear about the first year of marriage? It’s the toughest, right?! Why? Because it’s new? Or because that’s the stigma put on the first year of marriage? Wouldn’t it be cool to start hearing “The first year of marriage is the BEST! Enjoy it!”. It’s sad that instead we are constantly reminded how hard the first year is. 

I almost feel as if the articles online implant ideas into women’s heads. “If your marriage isn’t at this point, it needs work.” “If you don’t do these things, you’re not a good wife.” 
Every person is different, along with each marriage is different. I think going into something EXPECTING the worst, you won’t get very far. I know no one goes into their marriage with that mindset, but what are these articles teaching us? Fighting is normal? Staying happy is only done a certain way? You need to be doing XY&Z to show your husband you love him? 

Again, I understand each person is different. But try this; every day wake up happy. Say “I love you” everyday. Consciously make an effort to never let your marriage wither away. But most of all? Don’t expect things to go to shit. Don’t believe statistics. Don’t tell yourself what happened to that marriage will happen to mine. 

I do think some of the articles on the web regarding marriage are great. Date ideas are so fun to read. But ways to save your marriage? I think that just implants ideas in peoples heads that it is unavoidable. Failing marriages are unavoidable. I’m here to tell you they’re not. Do what makes you happy. Nourish your marriage with all you have and put in the effort daily. 

Oh and also? Kiss that amazing spouse of yours EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. 😉   
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Our Last First Date

I know a lot of people have heard “our story” before, but today marks one year since my LAST first date, so I found it appropriate to share it with people again. 🙂 

M and I first met on February 9th. After meeting him I truly thought I wouldn’t talk to him again. Not that he wasn’t a great guy, it was just something I saw happening. I mean fairytales only happen in the movies, right? The day after Valentines day, and the day before our first date, M sent me the most gorgeous flowers at work. The card read “To my new best friend”. Little did I know, he truly WAS going to become my best friend! (And if you were wondering, I still have that card. I’m cheesy and sentimental like that.)

flowers, couple, love, dating, marriage, wedding


Our date night rolls around and I remember being SO nervous, but in the same sense I was trying to remain cool. I mean hey, he was an older guy. 😉 I was taking pictures of every outfit I owned, texting my friends asking what I should wear. Literally down to the jewelry. I finally found “THE OUTFIT”. Much to everyones disappointment, it wasn’t even that spectacular.  

ootd, ootn, date night, selfie


M picked me up and we went to dinner at one of my favorite restaurants in Flagstaff. Our waitress came by to get our drink order and M order wine. A whole bottle of it. I remember just thinking “WOW! That is FANCY!” Hahaha. 

wine, tavera, cork


This was the kind of date where I was nervous to eat because I didn’t want to miss my mouth or have pepper in my teeth. Ya, I was still nervous at this point. 
Our first date was literally the best date I had ever been on in my life. We talked about everything from friends, to life goals and favorite foods. I remember M telling me he wasn’t just dating to date, he wanted to be settled down within the coming years. Funny thing was that’s exactly where I was at with my life. Usually wanting to settle down drives men away makes them run the total opposite direction, but not with M. That’s when I knew he was different. 
Later that night we were just driving around my town and I asked him to pick a way to drive, left or right. Thank God he picked left. Due to the fact that he chose left, we drove out to a beautiful part of town, sat in the car, and shortly saw a big the largest shooting star i’ve seen in my existence. Seriously y’all, this was something you only see on TV. We saw it first hand! 

We both made sure to wish for something. 

After that first date, M and I didn’t spend a weekend apart from each other. I truly didn’t think things were going to work long distance, but they did. They were better than ever. 


If you would have told me a year ago that I was going to meet this man, move twice, buy a home, and get married, I seriously would have laughed. HARD. I didn’t see my fairytale happening for a few more years. God had different plans though. He had BIG plans for both of us. 

I found out on my wedding day, standing up there with my best friend, we both made the same wish the night we saw that shooting star. We both wished that was going to be our LAST first date. How amazing that it actually WAS our last first date? We are truly, TRULY blessed to have found each other. My life is so much more amazing with him. I wouldn’t trade our life for the WORLD. 

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2013 Recap

2013 was nothing I expected it to be, yet everything I needed it to be. I never thought the year would start out the way it did or go as amazingly as it did. Everything I have ever hoped and dreamed for happened this year and I can’t wait for next year to see what adventures lie ahead of us! 

1. I met this one boy. 
In February I met this boy. I had no idea the amazing relationship that would soon start, but I am so beyond grateful that it happened.

(This is the first night we met. You can read more about that here.)
2. Another year of Country Thunder.
A lot of people wouldn’t add this to the list of “amazing events in a year”, but honestly this weekend is one of my favorite weekends of the year. I got to spend it with my absolute best friends and it was perfection all wrapped up into a few days. 


3. I traveled outside of the United States for the first time and WE GOT ENGAGED! 
Hi, one of the biggest moments of my life! It was perfect in every single way.
(Eyes closed, but I still love this picture. 
Want to know more about how we got engaged?! 
Head over here.)

That is rather new news and i’m sure half of you are sick of hearing about it, but I do not care! 
I AM EXCITED, PEOPLE! 

This year has been a ridiculously amazing year. Baby girl has grown and learned so much, we’ve truly become a family, and our life is taking off full speed ahead of us! 2014 is going to be amazing! 
A wedding, baby girl turning FOUR, and a house we are continually turning into a home. 

What were your best highlights of 2013?
What are you most looking forward to in 2014?







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Sometimes we’re really cute

I think my favorite part about “wedding planning” was taking our ‘Save the Date’ pictures! It truly reminded me how much I just LOVE M. We can be silly, and serious, and just be….in love! I kept looking at him and saying “I have no idea what i’m doing” and we would just laugh. I love that about him. I love that I don’t have to pretend to know what i’m doing, or pretend like i’m good at things. 
I was so excited to finally meet our photographer, who happens to be his cousin. Along with excited, I was a tad nervous. When he told me he “knew someone who took pictures” I was expecting someone who just owned a camera and took pictures for fun. Luckily, our photographer is AMAZING! She gave us direction and made us feel comfortable, which I loved and ultimately needed. This photo shoot reassured me that the photos of our wedding will be BEAUTIFUL! 
I am so in love with these pictures! 

(Remember this whole ‘I don’t know what i’m doing’ thing?!)


Sometimes we’re really cute. Wouldn’t you agree?! 😉

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Oh ya, I have a wedding to plan!

While i’ve been stalking pinterest religiously planning my wedding, i’ve had so many ideas coming and going through my head! 
The wedding planning process has gone a little something like this…

As soon as I got engaged I went out and bought every wedding magazine in site. Soon after, I bought a strawberry shake from Sonic and proceeded to lounge by my pool and day dream about thousand dollar weddings I cant afford. Hey, a girl can dream! 
Also, I did a very “bride” thing and ran to the nearest bridal show I could find. Who doesn’t love going to look at 509390 different cakes, caterers, floral arrangements, so forth and so on?!

While at this bridal show I came across one venue that I knew my fiancé would LOVE. I myself was set on a different one (from pictures), but I knew he would love this one. I went and looked at the one I loved and although it was beautiful, I felt like the other place might be it. We went and toured the venue I knew M would like and I was right, he loved it. (1 POINT BRIDE) We called the next day to tell the events coordinator we loved it and wanted to book. Soon following, we signed our lives away. 😉 

I’ve spent countless hours on Pinterest trying to find things I love. I’ve even attempted a few DIY projects. Lets just say i’m NOT the crafty one out of the group, but hey, i’m trying! 

DIY GLITTER MASON JARS ANYONE?! 😉
We also had our “Save the Date” photos done and I could not have been more happy with the way they turned out! I had so much fun shooting them and it just reassures me that I am truly marrying my best friend! 
Wedding planning has been an adventure for me so far. Its a lot different than just pinning things I like on pinterest. Can you believe this stuff actually costs MONEY?! Okay, kidding, but still. Its been a lot of fun so far! We still have a LOT of things to figure out, but for right now, I feel as if i’m staying on track! 
6 more months until this handsome man gets to be my husband! 

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