Is Marriage Supposed To Be Hard?

I don’t know how many countless articles and blog posts I see with a reoccurring theme: 
“10 Ways To Stay Happy In Your Marriage” or 
“35 Best Ways To Love Your Husband Endlessly”

Although I don’t think these articles are bad, I feel like some of the messages they send aren’t the greatest. To me, when I see these, I see “marriage is, without fail, bad”. I am not naive to think there aren’t bad days in marriage. But with these articles, I feel a message is being sent that “no matter what, you will start falling out of love with your spouse” or “if you don’t do certain steps, your marriage won’t flourish”. To me, that is silly. 

My idea? Choose happy. 
Every day of your life, choose happy. 

I remember when M and I were moving and my mom asked “how many fights did you guys get in along the way?” I was so confused by this because my answer was none. Were we supposed to fight? We were supposed to have a hard time moving? 

What do you always hear about the first year of marriage? It’s the toughest, right?! Why? Because it’s new? Or because that’s the stigma put on the first year of marriage? Wouldn’t it be cool to start hearing “The first year of marriage is the BEST! Enjoy it!”. It’s sad that instead we are constantly reminded how hard the first year is. 

I almost feel as if the articles online implant ideas into women’s heads. “If your marriage isn’t at this point, it needs work.” “If you don’t do these things, you’re not a good wife.” 
Every person is different, along with each marriage is different. I think going into something EXPECTING the worst, you won’t get very far. I know no one goes into their marriage with that mindset, but what are these articles teaching us? Fighting is normal? Staying happy is only done a certain way? You need to be doing XY&Z to show your husband you love him? 

Again, I understand each person is different. But try this; every day wake up happy. Say “I love you” everyday. Consciously make an effort to never let your marriage wither away. But most of all? Don’t expect things to go to shit. Don’t believe statistics. Don’t tell yourself what happened to that marriage will happen to mine. 

I do think some of the articles on the web regarding marriage are great. Date ideas are so fun to read. But ways to save your marriage? I think that just implants ideas in peoples heads that it is unavoidable. Failing marriages are unavoidable. I’m here to tell you they’re not. Do what makes you happy. Nourish your marriage with all you have and put in the effort daily. 

Oh and also? Kiss that amazing spouse of yours EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. πŸ˜‰   
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Our Last First Date

I know a lot of people have heard “our story” before, but today marks one year since my LAST first date, so I found it appropriate to share it with people again. πŸ™‚ 

M and I first met on February 9th. After meeting him I truly thought I wouldn’t talk to him again. Not that he wasn’t a great guy, it was just something I saw happening. I mean fairytales only happen in the movies, right? The day after Valentines day, and the day before our first date, M sent me the most gorgeous flowers at work. The card read “To my new best friend”. Little did I know, he truly WAS going to become my best friend! (And if you were wondering, I still have that card. I’m cheesy and sentimental like that.)

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Our date night rolls around and I remember being SO nervous, but in the same sense I was trying to remain cool. I mean hey, he was an older guy. πŸ˜‰ I was taking pictures of every outfit I owned, texting my friends asking what I should wear. Literally down to the jewelry. I finally found “THE OUTFIT”. Much to everyones disappointment, it wasn’t even that spectacular.  

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M picked me up and we went to dinner at one of my favorite restaurants in Flagstaff. Our waitress came by to get our drink order and M order wine. A whole bottle of it. I remember just thinking “WOW! That is FANCY!” Hahaha. 

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This was the kind of date where I was nervous to eat because I didn’t want to miss my mouth or have pepper in my teeth. Ya, I was still nervous at this point. 
Our first date was literally the best date I had ever been on in my life. We talked about everything from friends, to life goals and favorite foods. I remember M telling me he wasn’t just dating to date, he wanted to be settled down within the coming years. Funny thing was that’s exactly where I was at with my life. Usually wanting to settle down drives men away makes them run the total opposite direction, but not with M. That’s when I knew he was different. 
Later that night we were just driving around my town and I asked him to pick a way to drive, left or right. Thank God he picked left. Due to the fact that he chose left, we drove out to a beautiful part of town, sat in the car, and shortly saw a big the largest shooting star i’ve seen in my existence. Seriously y’all, this was something you only see on TV. We saw it first hand! 

We both made sure to wish for something. 

After that first date, M and I didn’t spend a weekend apart from each other. I truly didn’t think things were going to work long distance, but they did. They were better than ever. 

If you would have told me a year ago that I was going to meet this man, move twice, buy a home, and get married, I seriously would have laughed. HARD. I didn’t see my fairytale happening for a few more years. God had different plans though. He had BIG plans for both of us. 

I found out on my wedding day, standing up there with my best friend, we both made the same wish the night we saw that shooting star. We both wished that was going to be our LAST first date. How amazing that it actually WAS our last first date? We are truly, TRULY blessed to have found each other. My life is so much more amazing with him. I wouldn’t trade our life for the WORLD. 

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Our Weekend!

Fall is seriously one of the most beautiful seasons ever! Who agrees?!

I love fall for so many reasons. Including dressing in sweaters and hats and scarves, OH MY! If you follow me on instagram, you’ve already seen this picture. But I can’t help it! How cute is she?!
This weekend we took a drive to try and catch some of the leaves still changing. Although the majority of them had already fallen, it was a fun drive and we got to shoot some guns. How can you go wrong with that?! πŸ˜‰ 

How awesome are these targets?! Want to check them out? Head over HERE to look at all of the ones they offer! 

Did you do anything fun this weekend?
Do you enjoy the fall or another season more?

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First attempt at Homemade Almond Milk!

M and I have been wanting to try homemade almond milk for some time now. Its not difficult, by any means. We just never found the time to get around to it. I think our first attempt was pretty successful! This is literally the easiest recipe ever. And it is FAR cheaper than buying the stuff at the store! I became allergic to dairy after I got pregnant and it has been the most challenging thing for me to overcome. Lets be honest, I’m TERRIBLE at cutting dairy out. This almond milk was really tasty though and i’m excited to keep trying new things! 
Step 1. Soak almonds overnight up to 48 hours. 

Step 2. Rinse almonds and place in a blender. Add 4 cups of water per 1 cup of dry almonds soaked overnight. We added 2 tsp vanilla, and 2 tsp agave nectar but each of these can be played around with for taste. Let the blender go for two minutes. 

Step 3. You will need a strainer and a cheese cloth. Place a strainer over a bowl, then the cheese cloth over the strainer. This part was a little tricky for us seeing as we never have done it before, but we managed! We ended up straining it twice because the first time was still a little gritty. 
Step 4. Place in container, and enjoy! How simple is that?!?!

Have you ever made homemade almond milk before?!
What is your favorite way to make it?

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Sometimes we’re really cute

I think my favorite part about “wedding planning” was taking our ‘Save the Date’ pictures! It truly reminded me how much I just LOVE M. We can be silly, and serious, and just be….in love! I kept looking at him and saying “I have no idea what i’m doing” and we would just laugh. I love that about him. I love that I don’t have to pretend to know what i’m doing, or pretend like i’m good at things. 
I was so excited to finally meet our photographer, who happens to be his cousin. Along with excited, I was a tad nervous. When he told me he “knew someone who took pictures” I was expecting someone who just owned a camera and took pictures for fun. Luckily, our photographer is AMAZING! She gave us direction and made us feel comfortable, which I loved and ultimately needed. This photo shoot reassured me that the photos of our wedding will be BEAUTIFUL! 
I am so in love with these pictures! 

(Remember this whole ‘I don’t know what i’m doing’ thing?!)

Sometimes we’re really cute. Wouldn’t you agree?! πŸ˜‰

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Oh ya, I have a wedding to plan!

While i’ve been stalking pinterest religiously planning my wedding, i’ve had so many ideas coming and going through my head! 
The wedding planning process has gone a little something like this…

As soon as I got engaged I went out and bought every wedding magazine in site. Soon after, I bought a strawberry shake from Sonic and proceeded to lounge by my pool and day dream about thousand dollar weddings I cant afford. Hey, a girl can dream! 
Also, I did a very “bride” thing and ran to the nearest bridal show I could find. Who doesn’t love going to look at 509390 different cakes, caterers, floral arrangements, so forth and so on?!

While at this bridal show I came across one venue that I knew my fiancΓ© would LOVE. I myself was set on a different one (from pictures), but I knew he would love this one. I went and looked at the one I loved and although it was beautiful, I felt like the other place might be it. We went and toured the venue I knew M would like and I was right, he loved it. (1 POINT BRIDE) We called the next day to tell the events coordinator we loved it and wanted to book. Soon following, we signed our lives away. πŸ˜‰ 

I’ve spent countless hours on Pinterest trying to find things I love. I’ve even attempted a few DIY projects. Lets just say i’m NOT the crafty one out of the group, but hey, i’m trying! 

We also had our “Save the Date” photos done and I could not have been more happy with the way they turned out! I had so much fun shooting them and it just reassures me that I am truly marrying my best friend! 
Wedding planning has been an adventure for me so far. Its a lot different than just pinning things I like on pinterest. Can you believe this stuff actually costs MONEY?! Okay, kidding, but still. Its been a lot of fun so far! We still have a LOT of things to figure out, but for right now, I feel as if i’m staying on track! 
6 more months until this handsome man gets to be my husband! 

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Our Engagement Story

When M and I had first met, I kept thinking to myself “what if these are all my last ‘firsts’?” Last first date, last first kiss, last first time meeting someones parents. Something about him made me truly believe I had found ‘the one’. I will never forget our first date. He had told me “i’m looking to settle down”. That took me by surprise. Even if guys think that, they usually don’t express their thoughts about it. 

4 months after dating, we took a trip to Mexico. I knew from the beginning that Mexico was a special place for M. He has so many memories there and I knew he was beyond excited to take me there. We were only going for a weekend, but I knew it was going to be a fun one. I had never been out of the country before and I was excited to experience this with him. 

People always ask if I knew he was going to propose. And the story goes a little something like this….
M had somewhat dropped hints that he was going to ask but by the time we got there, I was completely surprised. I kept trying to force it out of him and he did give me this “bring sneakers, we might be going hiking on saturday.” I figured if anything was going to happen, it was going to be saturday afternoon if we took a hike.
Saturday morning we all headed out to the beach. We laid out, played in the ocean, and ate delicious burritos from the burrito lady on the beach! Once we decided we were going to head back to the house, I asked what the plan was for the rest of the day. You know, because we were going on an awesome hike or something, right?! I was wrong. So wrong. His response? “Probably just head back to the house, shower up, go grab dinner, and go to the Roger Clyne concert.” Uh, thats it?! It was completely out of my head at this point that anything was going to happen. I figured if anything was going to happen, the girls I was with would have made sure I looked more decent then I did, but they didn’t. We had walked out of the house to head to dinner, only to realize we had locked the keys in the house. Yes, in mexico, keys locked inside. After about thirty mins of the boys trying to get them out, they finally reached them and we were on our way. 
We arrive at the place we wanted to have dinner and much to our disappointment, they were closed due to a wedding they were having. So lets back track…keys locked in house? Check. Place we wanted to have dinner closed? Check. Little did I know, this was the restaurant M wanted to propose at. You can see the night was clearly going in his favor! 
We ended up going to a beautiful restaurant that was over the ocean. The sun was setting, we were with great friends, and i’m pretty sure 4-5 out of 9 of us had chicken fingers for dinner. When we finished we ended up walking up through the little fish market area to these statues. It was a cool place that overlooked the ocean and as I stated earlier, the sun was setting. Makes for a pretty romantic setting, eh?!
Next thing I hear “oh there is one more thing I wanted to do….”

I honestly don’t even remember what he was saying when he was down on one knee. And for the record, I wasn’t running away. I honestly felt like I was going to pass out and I needed to move my legs or else that would have happened. HAHA! 

The rest of the night was spent with some of our close friends and I loved every single second of it! I couldn’t have imagined it any better way. I went to Mexico with a boyfriend and left with a fiancΓ©!! The fact that I get to marry my very best friend is the absolute greatest feeling in the world. I’m excited for this adventure and to see where our life is headed. 

Stay tuned for more posts about our wedding planning process and making our life wonderful!

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You can’t meet your husband in a bar!

I figured I would start this blog off with stories of “us”. A lot of people ask how we met/how we got engaged. Well lucky for you folks, i’m going to tell you! 

My mom always told me “you can’t find your future husband in a bar!”
So from the time I met M, I told people “we met at an Uncle Kracker concert!” In theory, this is true. The catch? The concert was at Toby Keith’s I Love This Bar and Grill. I still laugh when I think about my mom saying I wouldn’t find him in a bar. 

Rewind a few months back to February 2013. My daughter was spending a weekend with her dad and I knew I wanted to have a fun weekend. I texted my friend Erica to see if she was free because I hadn’t seen her in awhile and we ALWAYS have fun together. Needless to say, I ended up driving down to the valley to see her. Erica and I knew we wanted to go to the country bar (Toby Keith’s) just to go dancing, we had no clue there was even a concert going on until the night before. Friday night we had gone out and met someone who was going to be at Toby’s (for the concert) and said we should all meet up and say hi once we got there. Saturday night rolls around and Erica and I head to the concert. Our friend we had met the night before was friends with M and shortly introduced us to each other. I found it odd that this boy (M) was actually having intellectual conversations with me. Fast forward to the end of the night when he is signing for his credit card. Fun fact for you? I’m left handed. When M signed his receipt, he also was left handed! I rarely meet left handed people and I told him “you’re left handed?! we should be best friends!!!” 

(The first night we met)

He had taken my number that night and I knew I would never be hearing from him again. That’s just how it works, isn’t it? I mean come on, you can’t meet decent guys at the bar, RIGHT MOM?! πŸ˜‰
A few days later, he ended up texting me! I’m 97.6% positive the first text had something to do with a sandwich. MUCH to my shock, M had asked if he could take me out to dinner one night. Seeing as we lived almost 3 hours away from each other, I did not think it would happen. Why would he put the effort in to a girl he met once? Nonetheless, he drove up the next weekend and took me out to dinner. I will never forget how nervous I was for that date. We ended up having a really amazing dinner and then drove out to a local lake nearby. This night was one for the books. That night, we saw the biggest, most amazing meteor blasting through the atmosphere. Honestly I will never see anything as amazing as that in my entire life. We always joked that it must be a good sign to have seen that on our first date. 

The next monday (or tuesday) at work I had gotten the most amazingly beautiful flowers I have ever seen. A dozen and a half white, pink tipped roses and tiger lilies. The card read “for my new best friend.” I know what you’re thinking, adorable! It is rather adorable, huh?! I guess we can say at this point the first date went well. πŸ˜‰

M and I dated for about a month before we were FBO. (Facebook Official for those of you who don’t know.) Side note: I just really like saying ‘FBO’ because I had NO CLUE what it meant until my friend Shelby had to explain it to me. *Dork alert* We dated long distance for roughly 3 months or so before we both knew the best decision for us was for me to move to the valley. 

And this is where our story truly starts! But that’s all for another blog post. πŸ˜‰

I hope you all stay tuned to hear about our crazy and exciting life together! Please feel free to leave comments or email me at any point!
Have a great day!!
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